Over the past 32 years I have been “in love” no less than 50 times. Okay, so maybe that’s an exaggeration, but I’ve had countless crushes, unrequited love from afar and other relationships. My heart must be big because I’ve given many pieces of it away, some returned with varying degrees of damage.
So what can my past relationships teach my daughter (and my son)?
14 Lessons in Love
- There are different types of love.
- It is okay to date without falling in love, but never mislead the other person.
- Love does not equal sex.
- Though sex can be a way to express love (but only when you are old enough).
- You will get your heart broken at least once before you find your happy ever after.
- You will break someone else’s heart – even if you don’t know it.
- Love is impossible to describe but impossible to miss when you feel it.
- Love develops over time even though you’ll feel suddenly struck by it.
- Love is wonderful and awful all at the same time.
- The first boy or girl you think you love….you do….in a way, but it’s unlikely to be the kind of love you’ll find and seek as an adult.
- Love knows no class boundaries, skin color, or sexual orientation.
- You don’t choose it, but you can help guide it.
- Bad boys tend to make bad boyfriends. Trust me. I don’t care how hot he is.
- Don’t say I Love You in hopes to hear it back. Say it because you mean it.
I’m no relationship expert, but these are some of the things I learned through experience. Some lessons were harder than others. I can’t shelter my kids from dating some day and I know they need to find their own path to love, but they might have questions along the way.
I don’t want to ever dismiss their feelings as simply being puppy love or see them go through dates like they don’t matter until they are X years old.
But if I knew then what I know now … Well let’s just say I wouldn’t have been so loose with my love in several ways.
What lessons in love do you hope to teach your children?