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Adjusting to Life With Two Kids

As much as I love these two kiddos, it’s definitely an adjustment – and a bit of a learning curve – to surviving each day. There are certainly pros and cons to having children close together. Having two under two (or would I say two under three since Rissa is 26 months old?) can be challenging and demanding because they are both pretty dependent on you.

Sure, Rissa is growing up fast and showing more and more independence, but she still needs her diaper changed, assistance while getting dressed, meals prepared for her and supervision. Good lord the things she can and will get into when not watched like a hawk can be quite scary. Plus, she still prefers me as her playmate though she is playing more on her own.

My sole purpose each day is just to keep these two alive, I swear!

I lucked out that Brian had plenty of vacation plus holiday time off so he could be home with us for a few weeks. It was so nice having one parent per child! But now I’m on my own with these two.

It’s been going okay so far but it’s only been a couple days. I feel like I get “nothing” done since tending to their basic needs easily takes up my whole day. I’m slowly adding in things like doing a load of laundry and trying not to feel guilty about what I can’t do. Plus, little man and I are still getting used to this sling.


Hotslings adjustable baby sling

Thankfully my husband is pretty amazing, though when I tell him that he says he’s just doing what he should be doing to help me. *melts*

I can tell how draining it is to be home alone with Rissa and Xander just by how my exhaustion level shot up after Brian returned to work. Suddenly I could barely keep my eyes open after both kids went to sleep (which meant no blogging!). I don’t want to be too sleep deprived so I’ve been listening to my body and sleeping when I am able. Let’s hope I can continue to time their naps together!!

Still, there are times frustration builds and we all just want to cry.


And when that happens we hug and kiss and soothe each other with assurances that everything will be all right. Because in the end, I know it will be and they’ll grow up in the blink of an eye leaving me to wonder how to adjust to life without them.

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  1. JanetGoingCrazy January 4, 2013 Reply

    This is what I fear most about two children…and why I am thankful that God saw fit to wait for baby #2. Now that Benjamin is almost five, I think I could handle it better. Good Luck to you and your two babies! Sometimes tears, hugs, and cuddles are all we need for the day… ;)
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    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      Spacing and ages affect such a transition I’m sure – and all with their own set of pros & cons. At times I do wish Riss was a little more independent…I think some days it would really help all of us.DarcyZalewski

  2. Nikki January 4, 2013 Reply

    I imagine it has to be quite an adjustment! I have an only child, he’s 7. My boyfriend has two kids, 8 and 13. Even though none of them are babies or toddlers, it’s still a major adjustment for all of us when we’re all together. Especially for me, since I’m used to just having one!! Sounds like you’re handling it great, though.
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    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      Family changes of any kind certainly take getting used to and bring their own set of unique challenges!DarcyZalewski

  3. Tiffany January 4, 2013 Reply

    Awwww Darcy!!
    I never had just one baby {twins!} so I’m not 100% sure what you’re experiencing but, for me, adding the 3rd was SO hard! i say just take each hour as best you can. Give yourself a break~ the laundry will keep, the dishes will keep and so will everything else. Just enjoy the new baby bc they don’t stay new for long and realize the only thing you HAVE to do is keep them alive, fed, warm and loved. :)

    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      Thanks :) I’m at least accomplishing the things I must do – everything else is just a bonus at this point!

      I can’t imagine what it’s like with twins! Adding your 3rd is probably much like how I’m feeling now though. Everyone is adjusting and roles are changing…it’s a lot to take in!DarcyZalewski

  4. laura January 4, 2013 Reply

    You’re doing fine! It is a big adjustment..one thing that I gave up was my need to be early to anything. Now I’m happy to be on time. My two are 9 and 4 but still it takes 20 minutes to get everyone to go potty, answer questions about why they have to go potty, tell them to get dressed, answer questions about where we are going, and then I am ready to just not go at all.

    I still have the days of “nothing” being done, but a Mom’s definition of “nothing” includes, meals, diapers, love, refeering, helping with homework, playing with, etc….I’ll settle for “nothing”!
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    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      Haha yes “nothing” is still a lot of stuff! :) we are no longer early to things. We are usually late now! I don’t like it but it is what it is. Toddlers are really good at dawdling too!DarcyZalewski

  5. Shary January 4, 2013 Reply

    They say the transition to two kids is the hardest. I have a little boy due in March and I’m quite nervous. But my daughter is 5 already and she’s quite independent so I think we’ll be fine. Good luck to you and your growing family! You’ll find a routine and a safe way to manage all the new chaos.
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    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      I can see why transitioning to two is challenging..even more so than the first baby! I think spacing makes a difference too. I hope all goes well for you!DarcyZalewski

  6. Tahlia B. January 4, 2013 Reply

    Aw, that picture of Rissa breaks my heart. I tried to take pictures of my daughter the other day when she was having a fit – I looked at them later and felt so bad for her, lol. She hasn’t been feeling too well and somehow nearly gave Mommy back her breasts…I don’t know if she intended that or not. It’s been a rough week here, too, I suppose!
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    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      I have never felt so happy, frustrated and guilty all at the sane time before and it’s a feeling I get often these days. At least the reason she was crying in this pic was because she was cranky and didn’t want me to take a pic of her new boots lolDarcyZalewski

  7. Bonnie January 4, 2013 Reply

    Being a full time parent is a full time job, yet filled with so much joy.
    You will each make the adjustment and look back on this as a bonding time in your lives.
    I had 5 at one point ages NB, 13 mo, 3, 5 and 6.
    With out the help of friends along the way I do not know what I would have down.
    Many blessings to you and your family.
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    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      It’s definitely the hardest job I’ve ever had and my favorite :) I can’t imagine life with so many littles under 6! Support does make a big difference for sure.DarcyZalewski

  8. Shanna January 5, 2013 Reply

    Your post brings tears to my eyes. You are very blessed and the days will get easier. So true about the growing up. My daughter is 15 and the time flew by so quickly. Enjoy the bonding with the wee one. Everything amd everyone will be fine.Enjoy these days and love each other and patience will grow as your babies mature and balance returns!

    Have a wonderful and Happy New Year.
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    In the meantime, get some rest honey. It will only make things better!
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    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      Thanks, Shanna! Most days have been pretty good but there’s just so many dynamics at play. A great day can flip so quickly and back again. I love them dearly and wouldn’t trade it for the world! Just want my normal self back :)DarcyZalewski

  9. Elle January 5, 2013 Reply

    That picture of Rissa is precious! Made me want to hug her.

    Just take your time. Remember…you are making memories too! Those will get you through the teen years.
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    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      The poor thing – she saw the pic input in the post and remembered why she was crying! Most days are pretty good so we are definitely making lots of memories :) I hope I don’t see that face again in her teens though!DarcyZalewski

  10. Heather M January 5, 2013 Reply

    It’s a huge adjustment. I remember… we just got by on surviving those first couple months. Then I slowly started adding in more and more things and now we’re back into our regular routine.
    DON’T feel bad about what you can’t do. Feel good about what you can do and what you have done!

    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      Thanks for the encouragement! It does seem like surviving is all we have time for these days. I feel like I’m lazy because I’m sitting so much but I’m nursing every couple hours and they both need me to entertain them!DarcyZalewski

  11. Headant January 6, 2013 Reply

    I have to now ride in the backseat with the kids so they don’t fight.
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    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      Oh no! I hope to avoid needing to do that.DarcyZalewski

  12. Allyson Bossie January 6, 2013 Reply

    For the first six months at least it will be simply surviving that happens! I have two that are 14 months apart. At ages 10 and 9 it’s so cool, but until they were about 2 and 3, I don’t remember sleeping much and my house looked much more lived in than it does now :). Sleep when they sleep, and the house will come as you have more energy!
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    • Darcy January 6, 2013 Reply

      I’m glad to hear it got much easier later on. I figure once they can truly entertain each other and play together it should help free me up a bit. It’s amazing just how much time in the day goes to fulfilling their basic needs!DarcyZalewski

  13. Marina January 7, 2013 Reply

    Awwww Darcy. It does get easier. The sling became my best friend when I had my second. I’d get so much done with him in the same and left my hands free ti attack chores around the house and play with my daughter.

    I promise…it DOES get easier!
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    • Darcy January 8, 2013 Reply

      Thanks :) I’m getting used to the sling but am not as comfortable with it as my structured carriers. Still it’s an option that helps a little more each day!DarcyZalewski

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