Do you ever just make time to Take Care Of You? As a mom, this is probably one of the things on the bottom of your list. You most likely focus on your kids and spouse much more often than you do yourself. However, when you continually focus on everyone else, you often end up exhausted and frustrated. So, these tips are all about how you can make the time to take care of you.
Making Time To Take Care Of You
Before I share some ways to make time to take care of you, let me say how important this is for our mental health. As moms, especially, we are often pushed to the edge. We exhaust ourselves doing for everyone around us, and we feel immense guilt when we take time just for ourselves. That has to stop. The mom guilt must end. To be better moms, wives, sisters, friends, employees, and daughters we must take care of ourselves!
Put the kids to bed a half hour earlier. This is easier said than done, but it works. That extra 30 minutes can really make a big difference, but only if you use it for it's intended purpose. That means putting the kids to bed, and instead of doing tons of extra cleaning or work, simply go relax. Use that half hour to read, take a bubble bath, or watch a TV show uninterrupted. Take the time for yourself. You deserve this.
Arrange a babysitter exchange with a friend or neighbor. It can be hard to get out without the kids. Especially hard when you have limited funds for child care. I love the idea of setting up a babysitter exchange with someone I trust. Swapping out a few hours a month with each other gives both moms time to just go out and relax without the financial strain.
Just say no. Say no to all of the requests, demands, and tugs on your time and attention. It is hard, but necessary to make this step. This can mean turning down extra work if it will cause stress. One thing this has taught me is where the real toxic relationships are in my life. You will quickly find out who is using you and who truly values your assistance and time.
Get honest with your spouse. This one hurts. Nobody wants to bring up a tough subject with their spouse, but sometimes you simply have to put it out there. Being honest means letting them know when you need a break. Even if you feel guilty because they are working outside the home and you aren't, or because you know they are exhausted and need a break too, it's time to talk. Let them know your needs and work with your spouse for a way to take care of you that will fit into your family life.
Working moms, stay at home moms, and those who do a combination of both all deserve some time to just take care of themselves. Take care of you. This phrase is one thing you need to remember. You work hard and you deserve to focus on yourself. No more guilt! It's time to accept you are valuable and deserve to simply sit back and take care of you.
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