Just look at that precious face! Photo by Darcy
Did you always want a little girl to dress up or a little boy to carry on the family name? What if you could choose the sex of your baby?
I was reading a post by my friend Jeanne over at The Stir about not wanting another baby unless it was a girl (only one reason of many they haven’t tried for another baby). I know some people feel very strongly about wanting a boy or a girl. Me? Not so much. My husband and I always wanted one of each and we feel blessed that we are getting just that.
Maybe it’s partly because conceiving Rissa took 3 years of tears and trying? I admit I kinda hoped Rissa was a girl, but thought I was having a boy at first and was happy about that. Then I sorta hoped this baby was a girl since we are set on girl clothes and gear, but sorta hoped it was a boy so we’d have our one of each…
I just want babies!
I know others who don’t seem happy having all boys or all girls, but there are plenty of families that are perfectly happy with their clans. Some are insulted when others presume they don’t want a 3rd or 4th boy when they do (or don’t care either way). I don’t know, it’s not something I’ve felt strongly about one way or another.
But Jeanne’s post didn’t bother me – it just made me reflect on our own family. I didn’t get my hackles up until I read about fertility clinics making huge profits off “family balancing” procedures to separate sperm in order to try and guarantee conceiving one sex over the other.
Gender selection intervention? It makes my skin crawl. Wishing and hoping is one thing but people actually consider aborting these babies if they aren’t the sex they want! We aren’t China…(who’s known for desiring boys over girls and getting rid of girls).
And the United States is one of the few countries where gender selection for non-medical purposes is legal. They’ve taken procedures meant to help prevent genetic diseases into a vanity profit business. Want that girl? Just fork over tens of thousands of dollars … though it’s still not guaranteed.
The woman in this article about gender selection at the Huffington Post paid for one of these procedures and cried when it didn’t work. All these families going through heartache over trying to conceive either sex and then there are others who aren’t happy with the number of boys or girls they have so they try to determine the next baby unnaturally.
I’m not saying these are horrible people, but it feels so…wrong to me. I’d say I am more disturbed by medical professions who advertise and perform this service. It feels like they are preying on moms who wish for a little girl or dads that dream about a son.
What are your thoughts on gender selection? Would you do it?