There are a lot of other blogs written by moms about their experiences. Many of them I read and relate to…some have different opinions and parenting preferences than I. Very rarely do I sit and think what crappy parents they are (maybe in my head I think a certain choice or behavior wasn’t so great, but I’m not going to bash them for it). In fact, I think a lot of them are rock star moms overall.
After all, we are all just trying to get through this motherhood thing the best we can, right? I know I’m far from perfect. After reading Jen’s post at Life With Levi about being a crappy mom, I realized if SHE is a crappy mom then I am TOTALLY a crappy mom.
She totally looks like she needs saving from my parenting, doesn’t she?
Ways I am a Crappy Mom
I hug and kiss my daughter when she asks (and steal them when she doesn’t).
I kiss my husband in front of our daughter.
We are still breastfeeding at 23 months.
I use cloth diapers most of the time but will use disposables when traveling or for a big laundry day.
We cosleep/bedshare.
I let her stay up until 10pm most nights.
We get up around 9am most mornings.
I let her play with my phone.
I let her watched television – sometimes for longer than I’d like so I can get some things done.
We babywear.
We use a safety harness sometimes in public.
Car seat is still rear facing.
I don’t cut up grapes anymore.
We don’t eat at a kitchen table, we eat in the living room in front of the TV.
I take Rissa’s shirt off for messy meals instead of using a bib.
Sometimes I yell.
I let Rissa play with dirt and water.
I let her help with chores.
Sometimes I have to work while she is awake.
We all get our scheduled vaccinations.
We let her listen to metal music and Yo Gabba Gabba…and taught her how to headbang.
We aren’t planning to circumcise our son.
I share pictures of my family online.
I share my experiences with others online and offline.
……….
See, I’m not perfect, but our family is happy. My daughter is healthy, happy, and constantly learning. I do the best I can. Not everyone agrees with all my choices and that is okay.
I’m the expert on MY family. Just like you are the expert for yours. I may offer suggestions and advice based on my own experiences, but only you can decide if they are helpful or not.
How are you a crappy mom?
Jen - Life With Levi
Wednesday 17th of October 2012
We quit using a bib a while ago for Levi. He's a boy, he gets messy, he gets a bath and a change of clothes instead. I can totally relate to a lot of the things you posted. Glad we're in this crappy mom club together :)
Darcy
Friday 19th of October 2012
I think it's a pretty awesome club. Thanks for banding us together :)
Anna Johnson
Tuesday 25th of September 2012
LOL Im a crappy mom too! <3 But my kids are making memories and having fun. we are happy!
Darcy
Thursday 27th of September 2012
If the kids are happy that's the most important part! :)
Allyson Bossie
Friday 21st of September 2012
hahaha I must be a terrible parent too! My son eats his breakfast in a gaming chair in front of PBS or Sprout. That's right, he eats in front of the tv. AND, breakfast is whatever he asks for other than sweets. If he wants popcorn, yehaw, he's having popcorn. Hey, I'm picking my battles. I let my child put stickers ALL over his bed. Entire Bed. AS long as he confines his stickers to bed or paper, we are good to go. AND sometimes, he has sugar, dyes, and caffeine *gasp* Not often, but sometimes!
Tracey @ Dont Mess with Mama
Thursday 20th of September 2012
I'm definitely a crappy mom. I let my kids run amok at the playground - that's what it's for right? And climb trees and go the wrong way up the slide. On occasion I yell when my kids don't do their homework.
But honestly, I think we need to embrace the crap. We should all stop trying to be perfect parents, and just do the best job we can.
Samantha
Thursday 20th of September 2012
I went through your list, and I do most of those things as well, with alot more things that supposedly make me a crappy mom. But, that is other peoples outlook and I consider you and myself to be awesome moms! There are so many different opinions on "how to properly raise your child" I love the comment about being an expert on your family, I think I will have to use that one with some people :)